As I mentioned in my last post, there was now a process to be followed. Being fairly ignorant of adoption processes in general, we were quite surprised by some of these things. We appreciate them now and believe they are necessary but it was weird at first. Read on and tell me what you think.
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This is the process we had to follow:
Step One – Four months of compulsory “Advanced Parenting Training”:
The training would need to be completed before we could meet any of their children. It seemed like a ton of training but it wasn’t actually that bad. The commitment was actually only one Saturday (6 to 8 hours) and one Tuesday evening a month for four months. So it was really only four days and four evenings, spread out nicely to make it a little more convenient.
We thought it was odd that we had to finish the training before we could spend time with the children. Being better-informed, we now appreciate it for a number of reasons.
- It protects the children.
- It tests the commitment of the adoptive parents.
- The social workers, who instruct the course, know they have invested positively into the lives of the potential parents, giving them the tools they need to be good moms and dads.
- It gives the social workers a good opportunity to spend time with and get to know the families wanting to adopt.
I have since found it interesting that we have to get training and be licensed to drive a car, but we can have children at will. Imagine if, like driving a car, you had to qualify before being allowed to have biological children. I expect Earth’s population would be much smaller. I strongly advise taking parenting training if it is offered. The training was so beneficial. We learned the basics of childhood development, general personality types and something of how to deal with the hurts that many of these children would have endured.
It was eye-opening. It was heart-breaking. It was necessary.
Step Two – Volunteer at the home:
Once the social workers are satisfied that your motives are good and that you have what it takes to be a good parent, they allow you to volunteer at the home. This is a good thing. It gives you the opportunity to spend time with all the children, not just the child or demographic you are interested in. Even a little love and attention goes a long way for all the children. It is also great to see how the home operates, the facilities they provide and how the children interact with their care-givers. While emotionally taxing, these were very good times.
Step Three – Trust that God shows you the right child:
This was the home’s exact statement. Once we started to volunteer, that is what we did. We prayed into this specifically and earnestly on our way to volunteer that first day. As we spent time with the children we tried to be sensitive to what God was doing in our hearts. It was a little nerve-wracking. We were on the edge; between a place we didn’t want to leave and a place we wanted to go.
So finally, after all that’s been said and done, we meet Amo. But you’ll have to wait for the next article for that.